Wednesday, 15 September 2010

For J


Ah Little Rose
beloved child
of friends
killed by a drunk driver


21 comments:

  1. Very sorry for you and your friend's great loss.
    This DUI is a horrible, horrible thing.
    I am reminded daily on a corner nearby where 2 lovely women were killed by a DUI driver who had lost his licence.
    There is a constant floral memorial to them going on over a year.
    Triste..

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  2. Paris Breakfast,
    I was thinking of you because you are supposed to be at the Alliance Française in DC this week, aren't you? Wyoming Ave NW is not too far away from the Adams Morgan, where that drunken woman struck those 2 girls. J never had a chance.

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  3. So sad. I am so sorry - but words are never enough in cases like this.

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  4. ...i just saw this...i am so sorry for your loss...please accept my heartfelt sympathy...

    there are no words at this time....

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  5. A tear for an inexpressible sorrow.

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  6. This is so sad, so tragic. My condolences. xx

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  7. My Sympathy, my condolences to the parents, to you....

    TO BLESS THE SPACE BETWEEN US -- John O'Donohue

    When you lose someone you love,
    Your life becomes strange,
    The ground beneath you becomes fragile,
    Your thoughts make your eyes unsure;
    And some dead echo drags your voice down
    Where words have no confidence

    Your heart has grown heavy with loss;
    And though this loss has wounded others too,
    No one knows what has been taken from you
    When the silence of absence deepens.

    Flickers of guilt kindle regret
    For all that was left unsaid or undone.

    There are days when you wake up happy;
    Again inside the fullness of life,
    Until the moment breaks
    And you are thrown back
    Onto the black tide of loss.

    Days when you have your heart back,
    You are able to function well
    Until in the middle of work or encounter,
    Suddenly with no warning,
    You are ambushed by grief.

    It becomes hard to trust yourself.
    All you can depend on now is that
    Sorrow will remain faithful to itself.

    More than you, it knows its way
    And will find the right time
    To pull and pull the rope of grief
    Until that coiled hill of tears
    Has reduced to its last drop.

    Gradually, you will learn acquaintance
    With the invisible form of your departed;
    And when the work of grief is done,
    The wound of loss will heal
    And you will have learned
    To wean your eyes
    From that gap in the air
    And be able to enter the hearth
    In your soul where your loved one
    Has awaited your return
    All the time.

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  8. I'm so sorry, please accept my sincere condolences.

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  9. My heart bleeds and I am full of rage againgst the uncaring thoughtless acts that wipe away a life.

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  10. Thank you, thank you all you dear readers!
    I cannot begin to imagine the grief of the parents and the pain of those who were really close to J. I hurt for her and her loved ones. I can still hug my girls and my son, but my heart goes out to parents like J's.

    Nothing can bring J back, but we all can try to make sure that we never drink and drive. I know you would not, but I beg you to do everything possible to keep also others from driving while intoxicated. Take away their keys if necessary and if you cannot get ahold of the key, when reasoning does not help, call the police. Immediately. Protect our sons and daughters and other loved ones. Support organizations like
    MADD - Mothers Against Drunk Driving and help them in their work to end drunk driving.
    Hugs,
    M.

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  11. I just read this statistics at the MADD homepage:

    in 2008, an estimated 11,773 people died in alcohol-impaired traffic crashes
    Three in every 10 Americans will be involved in an alcohol-related crash in their lives

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  12. Oh no!!
    So awful and senseless and heartbreaking.

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  13. My sympathy to you and to J's family. I lost a friend to a drunk driver a couple of years back, but I can't imagine losing one of my children.

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  14. That's a terrible shame! I truly feel sorry for the parents. Yea, the courts can throw the book at the driver but it doesn't bring back the lost child.

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  15. Merisi, may I join my wishes and condolences to those of other comments.

    This is just so sad. How many folks indulge themselves every day without enough thought of how their actions and lack of care might affect others.

    xo

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  16. Oh Merisi, I'm so sorry to hear this. The loss of a child is unimaginable. Such a senseless, selfish, arrogant reason is even more so. My heart goes out to your friends. Hugs to you.

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  17. Thank you all for your kind thoughts!

    Tragedies like this bring home how fragile a life is.

    Waiting at a traffic island for the light to turn green,
    and then, a senseless act of recklessness, disregard for one's fellow humans, a brightly burning candle spent, and nothing more, only darkness.

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  18. Merisi- Please accept my condolences for such a tragic loss. It is the senseless acts that cause us to pull our own children and families a little closer.

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  19. So sorry to hear that. It aches my heart. Condolences to the family, though that means little at a time like this.

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  20. So Sad. I'm sorry to hear of you and your friends loss. So unnecessary.

    An Arkies Musings

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